Did I mention my husband was a born and bred Catholic? He wasn't a practicing Catholic though and hadn't been since he left home. We actually got married in Las Vegas by a minister in a Christian ceremony. Around the time of our wedding, we'd agreed that we would "raise our children in church." Dear Hubby wasn't too picky about the type of church since he'd not attended any church since he was a teen.
We started attending the United Methodist church in downtown Austin. We loved it, until the second baby came along. Then it was just too darn hard to get there. We had moved, too, just before her birth, which added 10 miles to the commute downtown. Also, it was so big; I'd grown up in small churches and after my work at First Church, I longed for the intimacy of a smaller congregation.
Monday's gospel reading
was the story of the crowd following Jesus to Capernaum after the
feeding of the five thousand. Jesus said to them, . . ." you are
looking for me not because you saw signs but because you ate the loaves
and were filled. Do not work for food that perishes but for the food
that endures for eternal life. . . "
Signs and wonders still abound, though sometimes more subtle than
those to which Jesus was referring, and yet we still focus on our basic
human needs most of the time. Occasionally, though, my eyes are open.
One such sign and wonder came early in our marriage. When we
first moved to Round Rock with our baby girls, we started looking for
churches. Most were uninspiring; a few were downright odd. After a few unsatisfactory visits to unfriendly, non-diverse local protestant
churches I decided to hedge my bets by making phone calls before visiting.
I began calling churches and asking whomever answered about the ethnic mix of the congregation - as we are a inter-racial family -- and what the church's mission was. Few knew these answers. I was truthfully just trying to save time but these responses were very telling! Most were all white churches but they tried to make it sound better by saying, "we welcome everyone." To a person, no one I spoke to at any of these congregations knew what their mission statement was! On a whim, I decided to phone the local Catholic church, St. John Vianney.
Fr. Sam answered. He told me the parish's mission statement (Our mission is to grow in, give witness to and spread the Gospel of Jesus Christ) and that while most members were white, they were intentionally reaching out to families of varying ethnic backgrounds. This was the first sign. He asked what we were looking for in a church. He engaged me. He never once asked if we were Catholic. His openness and honesty caught me off guard and we visited the following Sunday. I was a little lost for most of the mass because they didn't use missals, but Dear Hubby seemed right at home. The second sign and wonder was the homily; it could have been written from my "play book." It was a lot of what I deeply believe all in one sermon. It was wonderful. I was entranced. My husband looked at me and whispered, "So I think you found our church.
Third sign: the congregation was tiny, but warm. It was a brand new parish, 3 months old, that met in an elementary school. Everyone spoke to us. One of my hubby's public high-school classmates was there with her sister. Though only 40 or so families were there, several were Hispanic and two were black. This was the best mix we'd found so far.
This was the beginning of the end of my life as a protestant. More later!
Part One of my story
Part Two - Midnight Mass
Part Three - Crucifix Ephiphany
Part Four - Seeker
Part Six - Annulment
Part Seven - Taking it on Faith